Category: SPILL
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You know, I realized something today. God made me a loner for a dang good reason. Until today, I was under the impression that my isolation was strictly for protection or worse- punishment. I’ve always wondered what I could have possibly done in a past life for God to make me lonely this lifetime. To…
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I promise you that no one is deliberately being “too sensitive” unless they’re intentionally practicing manipulation. Usually the difference is abundantly clear. For example, I used to date someone that would say “are you yelling at me?” every time I spoke firmly about my boundaries. That is one hundred percent manipulation. To use the same…
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Love involves desire… but intentional love knows how to quell it. When we move out of desire we deny the more disciplined, healed versions of our most loving selves. Desire is parallel with impulse in lesser disciplined individuals. Intention is shown through love languages like quality time and acts of service. If your person lines…
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(Photo by youareluminous on IG) I read a quote this morning that really resonated with me… it said, “integrate your shadow, or you’ll end up dating it”. Because I’m me, the first thing I did was Google search “integrate” though I know fully well what it means. I have to confirm though, always. The definition…
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I- … No shade, but I thought we all knew this at this big age. The dating pool is pure piss at this point and the bar is in the uttermost pit of hell. What happened to our standards? What happened to courting? What happened to fun dates, interest in character and bonds not layered…
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I’m ashamed to admit this out loud, but I have to for my own healing, and you should too when you’re ready. It comes down to this- I don’t like who I become when I’m hurting. She’s a monstrous, angry, unhealed and masculine beast. I’m not saying your being presents the same way, but nobody…
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Just for a moment, try to imagine your life without sex. Can you do it? Be honest… Yeah, me neither. Sex is such a sacred union, a bonding of souls, something so deep that it can only be described as revered. That’s the problem. As humans, we center parts of our world around it: getting…
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Every lover girl needs a friend that gets the ick easily. Hear me out- the duo balances each other out. When your nature is to give love regardless of the vessel or return, it helps to have a discerning eye to help direct that love. There’s nothing wrong with deciding who is worthy of the…
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We’ve all been in situations we’d rather not be in… because of our own ‘yes’. We sometimes, literally, dig our own graves, then spend an expanse of time wallowing in our miseries until we can go home again. Trust me, I get it. I’m the queen of ‘yes’. I’ve said ‘yes’ to relationships, jobs, friends,…
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